The Intimacy of Never Talking Again
I recently read this quote in a blog post, that stuck with me.
"the intimacy of never talking again"
It reminded me how silence, especially the kind that comes after love, can feel louder than words. Some of the most meaningful relationships don't need constant conversation to leave a lasting impact.
Similar to this, in graphic design, the space between elements can be as powerful as the elements themselves. The same is true in relationships.
Sometimes the pauses and silences carry more weight than anything spoken.
In the blog post, she says "my brain is a haunted archive of useless information" I felt that. We carry fragments of old conversations, memories, emotions. They shape us, comfort us, and sometimes haunt us. ( it's a beautiful paradox )
I relate to the feeling of being haunted by memories, both good and bad, I've been reading a lot about remorse lately, I've read "Remorse: Finding Joy through Honest Apology - Stephen Crippen" this is a book that talks about the power of remorse and the healing that comes from honest apologies. It made me reflect on my own past relationships, especially those that ended without closure.
that's why I posted this note,
I haven’t shared it yet.
I’m waiting until I’m ready. But writing it helped me find a bit of closure.
It hurts not knowing why someone disappears from your life.
No goodbye, no answers, just silence.
Sometimes, that’s harder than an argument ever could be.
I think about old photos. Unanswered messages. The people I used to know.
And the hardest part?
"Wondering if they think of me too. Or if the silence only feels sacred on my end. What if they forgot my birthday?"
They have.
I've also been thinking about religion, and how silence is used in prayer and meditation.
but when i pray silence is not empty, it is full of meaning.
same for when i think about the people I used to know,
the silence is filled with memories, emotions, that i should write.
i ask for grace, to be able to forgive myself and others.
Love.
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